Pain Of Not Belonging

Sowmya Rangarajan
3 days ago
3 min read

Feel Like You Don’t Belong? Heal the Pain of Not Belonging with Redikall Affirmations

The feeling of not belonging often shows up in two ways - shrinking back or staying where we shouldn’t. Here’s how to spot both patterns, heal the hurt inner child, and realign with your life purpose using Redikall Affirmations.

Stage 1: The “I’m Not Good Enough” Spiral (Lack of Self-Worth)

When insecurity takes over— “I’m not wanted,” “I’m an outcast”—the body reacts. You may feel a physical cringe, an urge to hide, or an emotional/mental recoil. This protective response is your system trying to keep you safe from perceived rejection.

Signs to notice

Tight chest, shallow breath, wanting to be invisible.
Self-talk that questions your value, for example, “Do I deserve this?” or “Am I being valued?”
Avoiding people or spaces you care about.

Stage 2: The “I’ll Just Put Up with It” Trap (Compromising Self-Worth)

Sometimes we force ourselves to stay in uncomfortable or unhealthy spaces just to feel included. There’s a clear body signal to leave, but we override it to “fit in.” This creates energetic dis-integrity and places us exactly where we didn’t want to be.

Signs to notice

Resisting the impulse to exit a draining situation.
People-pleasing, over-explaining, or over-performing.
Feeling small, whether you stay or leave.

Bottom line: In one case, we stay away because we feel small; in the other, we stay despite feeling small. Both stem from the same root.

The Root: A Hurt Inner Child Seeking Safety

At some point, your inner child learned “I’m an outsider.” Unprocessed emotions then create two default defenses:

Isolation (pulling away)
Over-performance (working hard to earn belonging)

To heal, replace these defenses with self-validation as your safe space.

Breaking the Loop with Self-Validation

You can learn to recognize the trigger and choose differently—breathe, name the feeling, validate your worth, and act from alignment (not fear). The faster we practice self-validation in every situation, the faster the belonging loop dissolves.

How Redikall Helps You Realign

Through Minor and Major chakras and their emotional links, Redikall guides you to transform and transcend stuck emotions, so your energy aligns and synchronizes with your life plan and purpose. Redikall Statements gradually deprogram old patterns and reprogram the subconscious toward awareness-based living.

Try These Redikall Statements

Use them daily—silently or aloud.

1. Clearing Statements

With Soul’s Love, I transform and transcend, the pain of not belonging.

With Soul’s Love, I transform and transcend, the belief that I must shrink or over-perform to belong.

With Soul’s Love, I transform and transcend, staying where I shouldn’t remain.

2. Karmic Statements

With Soul’s Love, I forgive myself for causing others the pain of not feeling belonged, across time and space.

With Soul’s Love, I forgive myself for making others shrink, across time and space.

With Soul’s Love, I forgive myself for keeping others stuck in places they didn’t like, across time and space.

3. Affirmation Statements

With Soul’s Love, I synchronize with the experience of belonging to a place/situation/my human life.

With Soul’s Love, I synchronize with the experience of genuine connection to myself, and the world around me.

With Soul’s Love, I synchronize with honoring my values and energy.

4. Gratitude Statement

With Soul’s Love, I am grateful for the wisdom of my body guiding me towards aligned belonging.

Practical Steps You Can Use Today

Name it: This is my ‘not-belonging’ trigger, and NOT the truth.
Body check: Where do you feel the cringe? Breathe into it for 60–90 seconds.
Self-validate: Put a hand on your heart and say one positive affirmation for the above.
Choose alignment: Ask, “If I fully respected my worth, what would I do next?”
Ready to rewire the “not-belonging” loop?
Join our Pain-Free Life Community, Redikall sessions, and workshops to practice these Statements with guided support and Chakra-based insights.

FAQs

Q1: Why do I feel like I don’t belong even with people I like? Old protective patterns (isolation or over-performance) can hijack your body’s safety system. Self-validation and Redikall Statements help retrain it.

Q2: How do I know if I should stay or leave an uncomfortable situation? Check your body. If your breath tightens and you feel a “cringe,” pause, self-validate, and choose from alignment—not fear or people-pleasing.

Q3: Can Redikall help if I’ve felt like an outsider for years? Yes. By addressing the emotional link of each chakra, Redikall helps dissolve root patterns and reprogram your subconscious toward authentic belonging.

Q4: How often should I repeat the Statements? Daily works best—morning and night, plus anytime the trigger appears. Consistency builds new neural and energetic pathways.