Karmic Detox with MOM -A story for you to heal your Karmic Relationship with your mother.
- Aatmn Parmar
- Feb 7
- 6 min read
Amita scheduled an emergency session.
Her mother was coming to stay with her for ten days, and even before the visit had begun, Amita could feel her system tightening.
She said calmly, almost apologetically:
> I have always gotten triggered around her.
> I genuinely thought I had done enough self-work… but somehow, she still affects me.
>I don’t want to repeat the old pattern anymore.
> I don’t want to feel irritated, disconnected, or shut down under the same roof.
She wasn’t angry.
She wasn’t blaming.
She was tired.
We began the session gently.
The Session Begins
I explained to Amita that we would not try to fix her mother or force forgiveness.
Instead, we would work with a simple principle of Karmic Detox:
When we are unable to forgive ourselves across time and space,
> inner toxicity builds up.
That toxicity often finds expression through our closest relationships —
> especially parents.
I told her:
> As we go through this, you don’t have to repeat everything.
> Only repeat what resonates.
> Leave the rest.”
(If you are reading this, you can do the same.)
The First Check
I asked Amita to close her eyes and think of her Mom.
Then I asked her to notice what happened inside her body.
She paused.
And said:
> “Nothing.
> I don’t feel anything.
I told her that was completely okay.
> Nothing is also a response.
> Sometimes numbness is the body’s way of protecting us.
I asked her to repeat it again — gently.
"Mom.
Mom.
Mom."
This time, there was still no emotion —
but something subtle had shifted.
(We often play indifferent to our greatest triggering factors and make ourselves believe that we are fine and neutral. However, there is a difference between indifference and true detachment.
Indifference is a defensive way of protecting our painful feelings.
Detachment is emotional neutrality because of inner awareness of the truth behind the seemingly painful stories of our lives.
My objective was to help her see the truth behind the triggers. There are many methods to help her with this. I chose the emotional detox method for her because this story seemed to be karmic. I will explain my theory on karma later.)
Working with the Trigger
Earlier, Amita had said:
“She triggers me.”
So I used her own words and said:
> “Let’s begin here.”
I asked her to repeat silently:
“I forgive myself for triggering others across time and space.”
(The soul often chooses to experience the same experience you have given to others. This is one of the principles of the Karma Theory.)
She repeated it a few times.
I asked her to pause and notice her body.
She said there was a faint sensation in her chest — not pain, not emotion — just something.
I asked her, what does this sensation make you feel?
She said, "uncomfortable".
I guided her again:
“I forgive myself for making others uncomfortable across time and space.”
She kept repeating, and I gave her time.
Her facial expression softened and her shoulders relaxed more.
She looked less tense now.
She said, “Now it feels better in my chest.”
When the Body Speaks
As we continued, different sensations appeared — briefly, gently.
At one point she said:
> “There’s a slight choking feeling in my throat.”
I asked her to repeat:
“I forgive myself for choking others across time and space.”
Later, there was an uncomfortable, undefined feeling in her stomach.
I asked her, what does that feeling make you feel?
She said, "unsettled and uneasy".
So we worked with:
“I forgive myself for making others feel uneasy or unsettled.”
I kept guiding her to forgive herself for giving others the kind of experiences she was experiencing through various somatic symptoms, as that was the only clue I had from her. Getting into the stories with her mom was meaningless at this point because she truly believed that she had worked on them. I wondered whether the work was done to resolve or to repress.
Going Back — Without Forcing Anything
When she was fairly settled, I felt safe enough to take her down memory lane.
As per my clinical experience of 40 years, I knew it was not the adult Amita, but the child in her who was getting triggered.
How old is this Amita who is getting triggered by Mom?
Let us call her in front of you.
She said yes.
“A teenage version of me.”
I asked her what was happening in her life.
She said she was lonely, withdrawn, and sitting in front of her father’s desk. There was an alcohol bottle, and she had an impulse to drink the whole bottle and sleep the whole day.
Not dramatic.
Just deeply alone.
I asked her:
What is she missing in life?
She said:
> “Love.”
So we worked with:
“I forgive myself for making others feel unloved.”
Then:
“I forgive myself for making others feel numb or disconnected.”
She repeated obediently, and after a while…
She became quiet.
After a long pause, she said:
> “That image is going away now.
> I feel lighter.”
Returning to the Present
I asked her again to think of her mother.
To her surprise, she said:
> “The trigger is less.
> I feel like I can at least sit next to her now.
It is interesting… She claimed initially that she had no feeling, and now she says the trigger is less.
This often happens with resistant clients. They may schedule an appointment for an issue, and once the session begins, they claim they have no issue as such. Yet they work, and then claim that the emotional charge is better. It is their deep fear of getting unsettled that makes them defensive during the session.
She said she had:
Not affection.
Not closeness.
But neutrality.
And I told her:
> “That is real progress.
> Neutrality is a great beginning.”
I also realized that she was looking for affection and closeness without admitting that she was looking for it.
The Mirror Insight
What is it that you do not like in your mother?
(You could also do this exercise on your own with the relationship of your choice.)
She mentioned things like:
* I do not like her victim-like behavior
* Seeking attention through suffering
I guided her to recite the following. She recited with almost no resistance, as if she agreed with me and could see the mirror in the form of her mother.
“I forgive myself for playing a victim across time and space.”
“I forgive myself for needing attention through suffering and pain.”
Each statement was followed by silence.
Each silence allowed the body to settle.
I witnessed several yawns, sighs of relief, and a few burps, which indicated that deep healing was progressing well.
The Core Practice
The progress so far was quite encouraging for her and reassuring for me. I knew we were going in the right direction.
I asked her to repeat:
Mom
Mom
Mom
She repeated it seven times to check if anything inside her stirred.
She said, “I’m okay with her.”
(I realized that this time she did not boast that nothing happened. She simply said, “I am okay with her.”)
She said she could at least visualize herself being under the same roof peacefully.
I gave her the final Affirmation to practice for the coming seven days:
“I forgive myself, and I forgive my mother across time and space.”
I asked her how it felt.
She said:
> “Calmer.
> Less heavy.
> More settled.”
If You Are Reading This
If you get triggered around your mother or any relationship,
if being under the same roof feels difficult —
this does not mean something is wrong with you.
You may try this gently for yourself:
* Read the statements again
* Repeat only the ones that resonate
* Leave the rest
Healing does not require force.
And it does not require reliving pain.
Sometimes, it simply requires a shift in perspective.
The beginning often happens with self-forgiveness.
A Gentle Reminder
If the wounds are very deep, do not attempt self-healing alone. Seek assistance from Redikall Mentors.
If, while trying to recite the statements, you feel triggered, you may stop and seek assistance from a professional.
The objective behind this blog and podcast is to simply guide you to heal with forgiveness and karmic detox affirmations.
*World peace begins with peace within.* Karmic Detox with MOM This blog helps us understand how self-forgiveness and karmic detox can heal deep emotional triggers in the mother–child relationship.
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